The holidays are often described as a season of joy and togetherness. But for people navigating a cancer diagnosis, the holiday season can also bring stress, fatigue and feelings of loss. Between treatment schedules, changing family dynamics and emotional ups and downs, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
If you or someone close to you has recently been diagnosed with cancer and are struggling, make an appointment with your oncology care team. They can make recommendations so you can get the guidance you need.
Dealing with a cancer diagnosis during the holidays
Receiving a cancer diagnosis can be distressing to anyone and often leaves patients with questions. These feelings can be magnified during the holiday season. Our oncology social workers walk beside patients and families through these moments – helping them find peace, connection and hope in the midst of uncertainty.
Accept that this year may look different
Holidays are filled with traditions, many centered around food, family and celebration. For someone living with cancer, those routines might need to change.
“Food is a big part of our culture, especially around the holidays,” shares Shelley Yavornitzky, MSW, LISW-S, a social worker at the Mercy Health – Lorain Cancer Center in our Lorain market. “For patients who can’t eat certain foods or are on feeding tubes, that can feel isolating. Planning ahead and communicating with family can help – maybe even creating a new tradition that isn’t food-focused but still brings everyone together.”
Give yourself permission to grieve the changes, but also to redefine what the holidays mean for you this year. New traditions can still hold joy and meaning.
Manage your expectations and energy
Treatment side effects, fatigue and emotional stress can make even simple plans feel daunting. Setting realistic expectations for yourself and others can ease that pressure.
“Focus on what you can control,” shares Lindsey Rotnem, MSW, LISW, a social worker in our Youngstown market. “Plan around your energy levels and prioritize what matters most.”
It’s OK to simplify celebrations, ask for help or skip events that feel overwhelming. Resting and conserving your energy allows you to be more present for the moments that truly matter.
Care for your mental and emotional health
Even in the best of times, the holidays can heighten emotions. Add a cancer diagnosis, and feelings of sadness, guilt or anxiety can intensify.
“People often feel like they’re letting their family down because things aren’t the same,” Shelley says. “But you’re not to blame. You’re doing your best and that’s enough.”
If you find yourself struggling, talk to your care team. Oncology social workers can connect you to counseling, faith-based support or coping strategies to help you navigate the emotional side of treatment.
Lean on connection and community
Human connection plays a powerful role in healing. Reach out to the people who make you feel supported – whether it’s friends, family, fellow survivors, a church group or a cancer support network.
“There’s so much power in relationships,” Lindsey notes. “Even a short call or visit can make a difference.”
Support groups can also offer encouragement and understanding. Mercy Health in Youngstown partners with organizations such as Yellow Brick Place and Joanie’s Sisters, as well as national and virtual programs like those offered by The James at Ohio State.
Practice gentle self-care
Caring for yourself doesn’t have to be complicated. Small, mindful practices can help reduce stress and nurture your spirit:
- Journaling or prayer to reflect and process emotions
- Short walks or light movement to boost energy and mood
- Creative outlets like crafts or art projects
- Mindfulness or breathing exercises to stay grounded
- Time in nature – even a few moments outdoors can restore calm
Listen to your body and honor its limits. Rest when you need to and give yourself grace.
You’re not alone
The holidays can be hard, but you don’t have to go through them alone. Oncology social workers are here to support every part of your journey – emotional, physical and spiritual.
How we can help
If you or a loved one need help coping this season, speak with your care team or social worker. Together, we’ll help you find the balance, comfort and hope you deserve.
Learn more about the cancer care and oncology services we offer at Mercy Health.
